What’s Holding YOU Back? A Guide To Unlock Your Potential

So what IS holding you back?

Do you ever feel like you are just running into a wall with the things you are trying to accomplish? Like you know where you want to be, but you don’t know how to get there? It can be SO disheartening!

Wanna know a secret?… I believe you DO know how to get there!

You can uncover your answers and truths using these exercises of self- evaluation & reflection.

Here we go!

Who am I?”

I saw something on Pinterest recently that got my brain churning. “When was the last time I really sat and did a self-evaluation??” I asked myself.

Later that day I went into my office, pulled out my notebook and just started at it! What I began to uncover was outstanding!!! It all started to flow out of me.. for hours! The entire day went by as I was doing this process of (what I refer to as) “figuring myself out”. I created a list of questions to think about that were fitting for my personal situation. I believe they can guide you too. They went a little something like this:

Who am I?

I began by writing out at the top of the page, “I am… someone who is trusted by others to give advice on THESE topics:”

This is important because it helps YOU, the self reflector, analyze what you’re good at through someone else’s eyes! For me as a content creator, it is necessary that I know who my audience is, what they value from me and what I can offer them. This can be applied to pretty much anyone trying to accomplish ANYTHING in life, in my opinion. The answers can teach you a lot about yourself!

These were my answers based off of recent conversations I had with people:

Relationship, Travel, Fashion and Dreams/Goals advice.

If you do not know the answer to this prompt or you are unsure, ask those closest to you! Tell them you are doing some self- reflecting and that it would mean a lot to you if they answered! 

Now you try!———-

You can utilize this information in SO many ways. Use it to help you know what career path to choose, what hobbies you might get into, what you might write in your next resume, what blog you might start, or even just gaining some confidence and reassurance in yourself to pursue a dream, etc! The list goes on.

Part two, ask yourself:

What am I currently pretending not to know?

To me this is really asking what that one thing is you have been holding back! Perhaps with a “saving it for later”, or a “now is not the right time” type of attitude. You know.. your secret super power, so to speak!

You can write it out like this:

What is it that I’ve been withholding from the world?

Why am I withholding it?

What am I going to do now to make sure I embrace it, share it, utilize it, practice it, nurture it, etc?

So now you know what others believe you to be good at, you know what YOU believe you to be good at, I say it’s time to share it with the world!

We’re off to a pretty good start, if I do say so myself!


Exercise #2-

2) “What is currently holding me back from…”

Notice how I didn’t leave it at “holding me back?” Much too vague! From what?? Phrasing it as “holding me back from…” immediately allows you to pin-point specific goals that you have, but are currently not achieving.

Find a quiet place to sit and think on this question for a moment. Write it all down! 

Finish answering the rest of the question as many times as you need/want with different answers.

It might look something like this… (What is currently holding me back from..)

Expressing myself the way I want?

Finishing the project I started?

Feeling confident?

Working out regularly?

Etc! Ask yourself the hard questions. Dig deep!

Now, you get to answer those questions. And beware, some of the answers are NOT pretty. You might discover that you are much more lazy or afraid than you ever realized. But that is okay, my friend because we are going to nip it in the butt right now!

So answer honestly- What is holding me back from doing that thing? ^^

{Common answers I have heard}

I would rather sit and watch Netflix all day because it’s just easier…

Learning new things is hard and I usually give up before I get anywhere.

I don’t have the right connections or money to make it happen.

I’m too tired after I get home from work.

Yikes, how was that? Now…

Under each listed thing that is holding you back, you are going to write down a “Goal/Resolution”. 

Get specific! That’s what’s going to get you through to the next step of achieving it!

Your goals & resolutions may look like this:

(Not in reply to the questions above, just random answers)

Get up and get ready 4 days out of the week so I feel my best, even if I am not going out.

Write at least a 1000 words a day in my book.

Hire a babysitter once a week so that I can focus on my (whatever your goals is).

Do it anyway. Workout at least 3 times a week.

Isn’t it amazing how we actually DO tend to have the answers to our own questions? It just takes a little focus and determination! Amazingly enough, as I was doing this self reflection, other ideas began to flow! That will happen for you too, I bet. Once you start imagining the life you want and begin problem solving/goal setting, your mind will show you all the possibilities you are capable of! Isn’t it exciting?!

Be sure to write ALL those incoming ideas down for later! (Do not try to just “remember” them. You will kick yourself in the foot later because you wont be able to recall what that glorious idea was…)

Also, do not forget to reflect back on these goals as often as necessary to make sure they happen!

From this set of self-reflecting, you have figured out what’s holding you back, why you are being held back by it and what you’re going to do about it! 

Boom!


Ok. Last exercise.

3) “A pretend call from a friend”

Make a list of things you TRULY want out of life. The deepest desires of your heart. And again, make them specific.

They might look like this:

I want to retire at the age of 35.

I want to move to New York City.

I want to produce my own music.

I want to own a Yoga Studio.

Ok, you’ve really got to use your imagination for this one…..

Pretend a friend or family member calls you up. You are really close with this person and they TRULY trust your opinion and advice every time they ask you for help.

They are calling you to ask: (INSERT YOUR HEARTS DESIRE HERE), how do I make that happen!?”

In your journal under the list of your hearts desires, one by one give yourself answers! The same thought-out type of answers you would search for and find if your good friend was asking you for help.

When someone trusts you and relies on YOU to guide them, it is flattering and actually motivates you to look for reliable answers for them.

I know I personally want my friends/family to succeed SO badly that I go to great lengths to help them know how to achieve something when they ask me for help. (Maybe because I’m obsessed with helping people follow their dreams lol). 

So why don’t we do that for ourselves? You are that capable person who got called up and asked for help! Give yourself that same confidence and motivation to find your own answers to your questions! Remember in the beginning how I said “You know where you want to be but you don’t know how to get there?” You DO know how to get there. Do you see that now? Trust yourself. Use your resources! Give yourself the same support that a good friend would give you. It’s all up there in that beautiful noggin of yours! (..And with some help from The Great Googs of course.)

Made it this far? Splendid. Now you have unlocked the power within yourself to get where you want to be!

In case this is as amazingly overwhelming for you as it was for me when I dove in, here is a rehash of the 3 exercises as follows:

  1. “Who am I?” This is where you analyze what types of skills you are so good at that others would ask YOU advice about it. Plus, your secret power you are hiding from the world.
  2. “What is currently holding me back from…” This is where you write what’s been holding you back lately and then answer it with the REAL reason you haven’t accomplished it yet. Finish it off by setting a goal/resolution to make it happen.
  3. “A pretend call from a friend” This is where you ask yourself something the same way a friend would ask you for help, and with that exact determination of finding it for your friend, find the answer(s) for yourself!

You have SO much to offer. I hope these exercises shine some light on who you are, how to get where you want to go, and what you are capable of achieving! I know they did for me. <3

I’ll be honest with you.. (dun dun dunnn!) If you do not start figuring these things out and taking the steps to make your dreams happen, your life will pass you by and before you know it, those dreams you had? Sadly, they never happened.

Do not let this be you! I simply cannot allow it!!

YOU are capable of making your dreams come true, so just do it already.

Thanks for reading. If you have any thoughts, questions, or would like to share your self-reflection results with me privately, please email me at sj2themoon@gmail.com and I will reply!

xoxo,

Sj

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My Sister Hired Me To Be Her Personal Stylist!- Wardrobe Makeover

My Sister Hired me To Be Her Personal Stylist

This very well might go down in history as one of my favorite requests ever asked of me! I cannot explain the depth of excitement and honor it brings me to have somebody trust and respect my sense of style enough to have me redo their entire wardrobe!

My sister Elise has recently received her “Mommy Makeover” to rejuvenate and restore her body after having 4 children, and man does she look fantastic! Her and her husband decided it was time to get a wardrobe that matched! Elise called to tell me their idea and before I knew it, I was on a plane to Arizona!

Wardrobe Makeover

To prep, I made a special Pinterest board where I collected ideas for what I wanted her new wardrobe to look like. Right before I flew out, I added her to the Pinterest Board to ask her opinion on everything and make sure we were on the same page. Luckily, she loved all of it!!

We started the experience by talking about expectations, styles and a budget! A budget was decided upon by her and her husband of $1000 to make this happen.

Next up, assess her current closet and see if any of it is salvageable! Luckily, some of it was! I believe she just needed me to show her how to “reinvent” some of the pieces into new and stylish outfits.

We spent a total of three days shopping at Nordstrom Rack, Pacson, Forever 21, H&M and…. GOODWILL!

After all the shopping was done, we made a huge spread of outfits put together on her bed so that we could take pictured/videos for this look book! During that time, I was also able to teach her my theories about putting a good outfit together, how to shop in the future according to what flatters her body type, how to mix and match pieces, how to utilize your “forgotten” accessories, how to tie your shirt in the “correct” knot according to what you’re wearing, how to pose in your outfit for pics/videos and much more! It was such a good time!

Before & After

The end results were outstanding! It brought me so much joy seeing the results of all our hard work! (And it was hard work… I mean we really did shop till we dropped).

Here are the “After” pictures from our time together!

*To see the full experience, watch my vlog/look book here:

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10 Unique Tips To Help you pack for your next Road Trip!

10 Unique Tips to help you pack for your next road trip!

As you may know, I have set out on a 3 week road trip up the East Coast! To some, packing for such a trip might be a daunting task, but not for me! I know it sounds crazy, but I actually enjoy the packing part! (It’s okay if you don’t believe me. It’s true!) As you know from my other posts on packing, I have certain methods I like to use that help make packing easier, more efficient, and even fun! So lets get started!

Road Trip Packing Tips

1- Make a list of all the places you will be going on this road trip and include how many days & nights you will be there.

This will help you know how many outfits to pack for each specific place!

2- Next to each place/location, write down what type of daily activities will be done during your time there.

This is SO important because it helps break down each type of clothing you need to be packing according to all the activities you will be doing there! An evening out- fancy dress. A day of hiking- workout clothes and tennis shoes! The beach- Swimming suit and beach towel! See what I mean? Nothing gets left out.

3- Next to each location, write down the daytime weather/temperatures & night time temps for your time there.

Keep this weather and temperatures in mind while packing for each place on your road trip list! Sometimes I get a certain style in my head for packing and I fail to realize it might be super chilly at night or rainy, etc! It also helps you plan out if you need light weight jammies or full blown footie pajamas for those potentially cold nights!

4- Establish if your hotels or Air bnb’s will have an accessible washing machine.

If not, plan on bringing a pair of jeans that you can wear multiple times to conserve packing space. Or you can pack lighter, more compact things. Sun dresses are always a good idea! (Unless this is a winter road trip, of course)

5- Go down your list of places/activities/weather and start trying on outfits that “fit” that criteria.

Pay attention to all details you have written down up to this point! They are all important! Reflect back to the list each time you think you have decided on an outfit, just to double check.

6- Take a picture in each finalized outfit to reflect back on what exactly you packed later on during your road trip!

You know how we pack all these cute outfits and then get there and BLANK. What did I even pack??? *Proceeds to empty out entire suitcase and throw clothes everywhere. This step is for you!!

7- Once all outfits are put together and all pictures taken, create different photo folders on your camera roll and title them the names of the places you are going. (Put outfit pics in each folder accordingly)

For example: DC outfit pics, New York Outfit pics, Canada outfit pics, etc. Make it easy on yourself, do a little organization of your outfit pics and you will have an easier time getting yourself dressed and out the door!

8- When packing, place the outfits that will be worn last all the way down in your bag/suitcase. Put your outfits for the beginning of your trip up at the top so you don’t make a huge mess when trying to get ready!

It’s all about efficiency! This one seems obvious, but yet, we all forget to do it! If you have already forgotten which outfits come last in the road trip, look at your list of places and then look back at your outfit pictures! See how that is already coming in handy?

9- Bring an empty spare bag to put your dirty clothes in along the way!

No need to mix the dirty with the clean! This can be as simple as packing a grocery bag, a garbage bag, or even a collapsible sports bag.

*Pack the rest of your stuff as needed!

10- While enjoying your road trip, don’t forget to reflect back on your outfit pictures each day so you recall how to wear & style each outfit with ease!

You’ll be the quickest one to get ready! After all, no one likes a slow poke when they are ready to go out and start their exploring!

Where are you going on your next road trip? I hope these tips help!

Xoxo-

SJ

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France Vintage Clothing Haul

France Vintage Clothing Haul

Hello, fellow thrift and vintage lovers. It’s about that time again! I now present to you, my France vintage clothing haul!

 

A Magical Day in France

It truly was a magical day in France when destiny brought me to Strasbourg the same day that the vintage street market was being held! We only had one full day in the area before we would be heading to the next town. My sister had gone out earlier than me to grab us some breakfast. When she came back, she was like “You are not going to believe this! I’ve got a surprise to show you!” At the time, I really had no idea what I was about to see. In fact, even my sister did not know the extent of her own surprise! She walked me to the beginning of the vintage market, which she thought was only one or two streets long. What she didn’t know, was that it basically went up and down almost every street in the whole town!!!! The most beautiful true-vintage clothing I had ever laid my eyes on!! Racks on racks on racks! AND SO inexpensive!!! I had obviously landed in my own little piece of paradise.

Honestly, if I had known that I would stumble upon this glorious vintage market, I would have come to France with two empty suitcases!!! Unfortunately, I came to France with one very full backpack. Three streets deep and one bag full, we agreed we had to peel ourselves away from the market before we got in over our heads! I cannot believe I am actually saying this, but the clothing was so good and so cheap, we literally couldn’t even LOOK anymore because we did not have the willpower to just window shop!!! We walked away in amazement…and concern for how we would be able to carry all of our new finds!

The Goods

Now that I have given you the full backstory, I would like to show you the goods! I will say, it is a MINI haul! (For the reasons I explained above. ^^) I hope you enjoy.

90’s denim jacket with snakeskin print- A fun statement piece to have!

 

Cropped Red jacket from the 50’s- Could be worn for a casual or dressy look.

 

1800’s style blouse from the 80’s- This can be buttoned in a few different ways to create different looks!

 

Saddle shoes from the 60’s- In mint condition!

 

Cream Colored Beret- Perfect accessory to wear in France 😉

 

Vintage Camera- Had to have this for obvious reasons.

 

Faux fur bolero jacket from the 50’s – For a night out on the town!

 

Fringe dress from the 60’s- (Excuse the selfies, I haven’t worn these next ones out quite yet 😉

 

Mini Skirt with pockets from the 60’s- Cute with a casual outfit or even a bathing suit cover up! (Oh, and here is the bolero jacket again too)

Thanks so much for your interest in my France vintage clothing hall! I tend to do a vintage/thrift haul every new place I travel to, so be sure to subscribe to my blog below if you want to see the next!

Also, if you would like to see some of my favorite views and places from this France trip, shop my France photography Prints for sale.

AND subscribe to my Youtube channel! 

Xoxo,

Sj

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What’s inside my backpack + Packing tips

What’s inside my backpack

+ Packing tips

Every time I travel, I always bring my handy dandy backpack! I have been asked so MANY times how the heck I fit everything for a trip inside there!?! I will get to that.

 

Picking out the right outfits for your trip

I’ll be honest, I love wearing pajamas almost as much as I love dressing up (I said almost!) You can usually find me wearing comfy clothes while hanging out around the house, running errands too! So when do I get the chance to give my “pretty clothes” the time of day?! I would hate for them to feel left out, ya know? Well, traveling is the answer!! I already love traveling for 8 million reasons, which makes getting to wear creative outfits the cherry on top!

I consider it a great joy to pick out outfits that “match” the theme of the place I am traveling to! Going to Scottland? Wear Plaid. Going to France? Pack a beret! Etc. It’s so fun!!! It’s like playing adult dress up! I don’t always wear what that place is known for, sometimes I just wear what I think will look good in the pictures I plan to take there!

 

 

To start this outfit planning process, I blast music and put on a fashion show for myself! (You heard me). I pull over the extra clothing rack I have and set it right next to the body mirror. Next, I rummage through all of my clothes, pulling out and hanging up anything that might be a potential fit for the trip!

 

 

Next, try everything on!!!

Check every outfit combination along the way in the mirror and ask yourself these questions.

  1. Do I feel confident in this?
  2. Will this look good with a particular monument or place where I am traveling to?
  3. Is it comfortable enough to wear all day and do a lot of walking in?

*Don’t fret! If you are just dying to get a picture in a certain outfit and it just ain’t that comfy? Plan to wear it for a quick pic and bring a change of clothes with you that day to change into afterward! Yes, this is as extra as it gets, but sometimes it is just worth it!

Go through each day in your mind and find an outfit that works for the events you have planned for that day! For example–> A fancy event, a hiking day, a rainy day, a swimming day, etc. These are all things you need to think about while packing for THAT day. If you do not have set plans for your trip, just try your best to plan for a variety of potential activities and weather.

Don’t forget the add on’s! With the outfit on, take note of what else you need to complete that outfit. Don’t just guess what you think will go with it, try it on to be sure! Nothing is worse than packing blindly, thinking something will look good together and then getting there and realizing it doesn’t! Gasp! Try it with earrings, a belt, a hat, special socks, a certain style of bra/underwear, anything you need with that outfit! You don’t want to show up with a strapless dress and realize you didn’t think to pack your strapless bra! I’m sure you see my point.

Take Pictures

After you have pulled everything out of your closet and have a set idea of what you’re going to bring, put each completed outfit on (accessories and all) and TAKE A FULL BODY PICTURE in the mirror! Do this for each outfit you want to bring. Why you may ask? Simple, when you arrive on your first day and you can’t remember what the heck you packed and everything is all rolled up and hard to see in your backpack, you just look at your outfit planning pictures! Like this, “Oh yeah! I forgot I packed that amazing outfit with those earings. Cool!” It may sound ridiculous, but it works!! You can thank me later.

Once you have designated the correct accessories, underwear AND have taken your final picture of an outfit, set all of it aside in a “ready to be packed” pile.

 

The art of packing

Yes, it is an art. Packing it all in a backpack does require you to be somewhat minimalistic. But not as much as you would think!! People always ask me how I manage to fit cute clothes in my backpack… Like I’m sorry, what? Cute clothes fit in just the same as grungy clothes! Haha, silly people! Yes, you have to get creative with certain things though. Like maybe try not to pack heavy duty jeans with every single outfit! That would take up a lot of room! Try throwing in some lightweight dresses that roll up really small into the mix! You could also do leggings! OR, just be ok with wearing the same pair of jeans more than once.

 

 

I have mentioned this “rolling” thing a few times now. I think most people know this packing trick already, but just in case you don’t, I will go over it. ROLL all of your clothes tightly and then pack them in as tight as possible! This is a more efficient way to pack compared to regular old folding! The bag will fit way more items in this way!

 

What’s Inside?

As for my actual packing list, it looks a little something like this.

Main Carry on Backpack:

-Day 1-7 outfits (including accessories and underwear)

-Laptop

-Electronics pouch (Holds chargers, SD cards, earphones, camera battery, etc)

– Shoes. Pack the flat ones into the side pockets, wear the chunky shoes on my feet for the flight.

-Hats. Giant one goes on my head for the flight, smaller/compactable ones go in the bag.

-Minimal makeup (powder, brow shadow, blush, lipstick)

-A couple meds. -A few Ibuprofen, Sudafed, anti-acid chews, etc. Just in case.

-Mini liquids. (Shampoo, soap, toothpaste, hairspray, dry shampoo, face lotion)

-Neck pillow (hangs on top of the backpack)

-A mini camera tripod (put inside the other side pocket)

-My camera (although this is actually hanging around my neck, not in my bag)

Side note- I try to never bring hair tools. Well, I do bring a brush actually! But most hotels & Airbnb’s will provide blowdryers though! Luckily my hair does fine just air drying. But if yours doesn’t, you can get creative with your hairstyles that don’t require heat! OR….just shove it in the bag.

 

 

Next, there is the “personal item” as it is referred to on the airplane. This can be a purse or a small backpack! But keep in mind, this is another thing you will have to carry around from place to place, so don’t make it too heavy! (Been there, done that!) For me, this looks like one of two things- a small backpack or side satchel that carries a small number of necessities to go out for the day with.

An alternative option that I try not to do too often (because it can be a pain in the butt) is to bring one of those sturdy produce bags! I will use this if I am planning to do a promotional photo shoot in certain items that don’t fit in the main backpack. Ex- giant hats, multiple purses, big jackets, etc. It works if you need to do it, but if you don’t, I suggest making your personal item as light and small as possible.

In the small satchel version of my personal item, this is what you will find inside:

-Passport

-Credit card

-Chapstick/lipstick

-Band-aid

-Pocket tissues (necessary because other countries don’t always provide toilet paper in their bathrooms!)

-Feminine products, because you never know!

-A little cash

-Phone battery pack

-A couple Ibuprofen

 

Why a backpack?

Lastly, I would just like to clarify that I am NOT lugging my backpack around with me all day every day. Wherever I check into for my stay, I leave my main backpack there for the day while I go out and explore! All I bring out with me is my small day bag (satchel or fanny pack) that has the small things I need while out and about. Oh, and I bring my camera everywhere with me of course! This means I only have to “lug around” my backpack in-between changing hotel/Airbnb locations. It’s really not so bad!

I prefer backpacking compared to rolling around a suitcase because it’s just more convenient for me to have something strapped on my back rather than it dragging/rolling behind me on the floor! Especially when you are in a huge crowd rushing through metro stations. The rolling ones tend to trip people…

 

Answering IG Story questions about Backpacking:

(There are a ton of similar questions, so I will condense and answer)

Q: How do you fit everything you need into one backpack?

A: Outfit plan with precision and be sure to roll up everything! Bring mini and compact items. Not huge, chunky ones!

 

Q: What is better, backpack or a roller suitcase? And why?

A: Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I personally love having the backpack. It just feels more efficient to me. Plus it doesn’t get super in the way like a rolling suitcase does! And stairs!!! I would much rather have a bag on my back for walking up all those steps in the metro station!

 

Q: Do you get tired lugging the backpack around everywhere?

A: Sometimes, but if the backpack fits correctly, it should have a buckle latch that connects in front of your stomach that holds most of the weight of your backpack on your waist (which is not as tiring). Also, you shouldn’t have to bring your backpack everywhere. Just bring it when you are changing hotels and whatnot. Don’t bring it out with you every day.

Also, if you are not able to check into your hotel right when you arrive, or maybe you are at a hostel that doesn’t have big enough lockers for your backpack, you can usually google “coin lockers” in the area you are staying and that way you have a place to drop your bag safely for the day. You should never have to carry it for too terribly long!

 

Q: Do you have to do make due without some stuff that you might normally want to take in a regular suitcase?

A: I don’t! A lot of people overpack when they bring suitcases…which is fine, just a personal preference. But when I put the proper time and planning into my packing, I always have everything I need!

 

That’s about it, folks! Hopefully this helps the next time you are packing for a trip! Thank you all so much for your questions. I hope I answered everything you wanted to know!

Enjoy your travels!

Xoxo,

Sj2themoon

 

[ALL pictures edited with my personalized sj2themoon presets. You can purchase those here.]

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Flight Attendant Wife Life

Flight Attendant Grad

He did it!! ….WE did it! Okay ok, I know he is the one who did all the work to become the Flight Attendant, but I feel like I get to say “we” because I had to go without my Kent being home for two whole months!! Luckily, his training was in Atlanta still, so if his class was ever let out early, Kent and I would be able to meet up occasionally! (Gotta love that forbidden romance. Lol jkjk) But still! He had to stay there in a dorm even though we live only 35 minutes away! I get it though, they want everybody to be able to remain as focused as possible. For a good reason too… their training was intense! Like holy cow!

The actual Flight Attendant Graduation was so lovely! Getting emotional wasn’t really something I anticipated on happening, but of course, I did! I freakin missed my husband like crazy, so some emotions were bound to break free! Not only that, but it was also a mixture of me being super proud of him! PLUS, they were showing all these sentimental Airline videos which reminded me of how Kent purposed to me ON an airplane in front of everybody! So obviously I caught a tear or two! After the videos, they had some lovely speakers, a graduation ceremony where each new flight attendant graduate walked the stage, the cutest brunch for everyone, oh! And my favorite part, I got to pin his wings on him! Such a cool feeling to get to do that!

The Flight Attendant Wife Life

I’ll be honest, I did pretty well with maintaining a positive attitude while he was gone. However, you could say I indulged a bit to keep myself happy and distracted there for a while. Hehe! A little ice cream eating and binge-watching goes a long way! So yes, I let my good routine and healthy eating slide for those two months, but it was worth it. I deserved it! Don’t ya think?!

Now that Kent is back home with me again, I have re-committed to my goals with myself and I am back at it! Zero regrets throughout it all, just some much needed TLC while he was gone! Or, you could refer to it as ICBW (ice cream & binge-watching). It definitely feels good to be getting back into my groove though!

I have a ton of learning to do as far as what this flight attendant wife life will be like, but compared to him being away for two months during training, this will feel like a piece of cake! Yes, he may be gone a night or two here and there which sucks, but do you know what that means?! It means I get him all to myself after that for a couple days straight!! THAT makes it all worth it to me in the end.

….Can you tell I have a super crush on him? <3

As most of you know, we took a celebratory trip to a beach in Florida after Kent graduated! It was much needed, to say the least!  We will have our Florida vlog up for ya’ll very soon!

Meanwhile, here are a couple pics from his graduation! (And I say “a couple” because apparently, something has happened to most of the pics from the event. It says they are damaged so they can’t be posted. Sad day. But at least a couple were saved!)

Ps. Thanks to everyone who has been asking about Kent’s training and rooting us on the entire time, it means a lot to us to have your support!

More updates coming soon <3

Love, Sj girl

Valentine’s Day 2018

Happy Valentine’s Day!

It’s Valentine’s Day ya’ll!! I really enjoy holidays because it gives me an excuse to celebrate! Let’s just say every time there is a holiday, we usually end up celebrating all week long! Kent and I are considered untraditional (per usual) in the sense that we don’t get each other gifts on holidays! I’m not opposed to gift giving… and it’s not like we are Valentine’s Day haters! We just really enjoy getting each other gifts throughout the year instead! This way, by the time holidays roll around, we can just spend time together and go out to do something fun! I like it much better this way because there is no pressure or stress for finding “the perfect gift”. It allows us to just focus on each other!

This year for Valentine’s Day (week), we have a couple things in mind that we wanna do! But who knows what the actual day will bring! So far, we know for sure we are not celebrating V-Day on February 14th like everybody else! Kent and I are still long distance right now while he is away at flight attendant training! But obviously, we are not going to just let the big day come and go while we are apart, no! We will just move it to a different date!! Hello! So this year, Valentine’s Day will be on February 17th! (And like the whole entire week, of course)

On the big day, we are likely going to have a movie marathon of our favorite V-Day movies! …We are big movie people! Then, we will likely find somewhere special to eat for….breakfast, lunch and dinner. We like food, okay?

Later that day we are also planning on hiking Tallulah Gorge to see the waterfall! That’s what our plans are for now, but we always try and go with the flow and see where the day takes us!

I’ll be sure to post pics later for ya’ll from the hike/waterfall!

 

Meanwhile, here are our mushy gushy Valentine’s Day pics!

Enjoy the day of  lovin’!

 

xoxo, Sj

 

Kent & Sj V-day 2018

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Entry #2 Dear Diary, So this is what it’s like

January 8th, 2018

Dear Diary, 

So this is what it’s like

So this is what it’s like to be alone! Well, technically I’ve been alone before, but not long term. Especially not while being married! Some people may consider it easy to be away from their spouse, but it is definitely not easy to be away when your husband is your best friend in the whole entire world! Kent= BFFE

I guess I should catch you up. My husband, Kent, just started his training as a flight attendant! Which is so fantastic!! Couldn’t be more excited for him! However, this requires him to be away for two months at flight attendant boot camp. Ugh! Two whole months!!

My respect for flight attendants has definitely skyrocketed since he has started this whole process. The amount that they get put through?! It’s intense! In case you didn’t know, flight attendants are not put on planes just to help fetch you drinks, they are there as practiced and trained professionals to keep you safe in the event of an emergency. A lot goes into this!! Hence, the need for the boot camp! (It’s not really called that… I don’t think)

I am only in the first week of being alone while he is in training. It’s going ok so far. I just hope it goes fast because I feel it will get harder each week.

It was super rough dropping Kent off at training, knowing I wouldn’t see him for awhile. Let’s just say, lots of tears! But I am also very proud and happy for him! He is a hard worker and he will do so wonderful with this new opportunity!

How I can Grow From This

Being alone gives me a ton of time to think and reflect on life, who I am and what I want. Kent and I have a strong belief that a person should know how to be happy on their own first, and then an added source of strength and happiness (aka a significant other) can only make it go up from there.💕 I don’t believe that all your sense of belonging, happiness, and hope should be in the hands of one person. But, I do believe that one special person can add to that already existing happiness, a joy more special than any other kind!

“Fall in love with yourself first and then find someone to share it with” -Eartha Kitt

This frame of mind will definitely come in handy while he is away. I get to be reminded that I am independent, I am happy, and I am capable! I knew how to be happy in my own company before, and I can do it again. (Hopefully!) But that doesn’t mean I won’t miss him every single day and have an occasional emotional breakdown.🙃 I know I will, and that’s ok. That’s what love does to ya ♥️

I am confident that during this time, I can work on myself and things that bring me joy, rather than focusing on being sad that he is away. This all feels very familiar, considering he and I dated for a while doing long distance, back in the day. People would ask me why we tortured ourselves with long-distance dating, and I always told them, “When HE’S worth it, IT’S worth it”. I still feel that way! He will always be worth it to me.

Let the long distance- face timing begin!

Love,

Your Girl SJ


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Entry #1- Dear Diary, am I really going to do this?

December 28th, 2017

Dear Diary, Time to get Real

Dear Diary is not something I would have ever expected myself to say! I’ve never really been good at this journal writing thing. As long as I can remember, I have always loved writing stories, so you would think I would be more eager to record my personal stories! BUT the honest truth? When I was a little girl, I remember overhearing my parents talking about how they “had to” read my sister’s diary (Gasp)! This did not sit well with me, even at such a young age! You could say this is the reason I never wrote in my journal much growing up… (sorry mom and dad!) The truth comes out! Don’t worry, I still love ya. But anyway, I guess I just really valued my privacy. So why am I now ok with making my diary public you may ask?!

Beats me.

So here ya go, Mom and Dad! …the diary of mine that you never got to read! This sounds pretty contradictory I realize, but I think I am ready for this change.

Up till now, my IG & Blog have remained pretty neutral and fun-lovin’, but there is so much more that goes on behind the scenes! Obvi! So let’s get real, shall we? It’s time for me to open up! In this journal, I imagine I would like to share my inner thoughts, relationship experiences, life updates, and anything else one might pour into their diary! Oh! And things I learn from Kent!! …Did I already mention that? Because I’m pretty sure he deserves a category of his own!

Recently, I made friends with a lovely gal that reminded me how important it is to be brave, be you, and not be afraid to tell people what you believe, even if it is the “unpopular” opinion. This really impacted and inspired me to make an effort to speak my opinion and show my truest self! I guess you could say this is my New Years attempt at being more open with the world about who I am, even if they might not agree, like it, or care!

So, here I am World!

“I have come to believe over and over again that what is most important to me must be spoken, made verbal, and shared, even at the risk of having it bruised or misunderstood.” -Audre Lorde

For starters-

My name is Sj! I am 24 years old. I’m married to my soul mate and #1 inspiration, Kent. I am a Blogger, Youtuber,  Instagrammer, and Stylist! I crave new adventures 85% of the time. The rest of the time I am perfectly satisfied staying home with my hubby and puppy, snuggling and watching Anime. Or GOT.

I have a hard time fitting a niche because I’ve got my hands in all the baskets (is that how the saying goes?). I’m very happy that way though. Not everyone can be comfortable living life in a box, as some find themselves doing. The last thing I want to do is try and fit a mold that doesn’t work for me!

So “Me” a: Lover of God, fashion, craft making, singing, dancing, adventures, home decor, progress, cooking, traveling, dream following, writing, self-expression, empowerment, people, relationship observation and motivation, performing, bohemian lifestyle, ever-changing hair colors, and being married! So why choose just one? Live each day doing the things you love. I believe you can be all that you set your heart on becoming. <3 WE can live in a world that we design.

Hmm.. what else?

I have a precious doggo named Lucy. She is a Yorke!

We live in a renovated Cotton Mill apartment downtown.

Lucy and I walk everywhere together now that I have decided to leave the car life behind and use my legs! Best thing ever.

Kent and I have strong goals and plans to retire in 6 years! ( Yes, that’s right! More deets on this later).

We are in the middle of renovating and decorating our new apartment!

Kent has just been hired as a flight attendant and we will be balancing our marriage with some occasional long distance and lots of travels together soon to come!

We have lots in store that we would like to share with you this year!

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Love, SJ

Shop #sj2themoon- December Market Day

December Market Day

Crafting is a huge passion of mine that gets put on the back burner far too often, but not today folks!!! It’s goin’ down!

I had so much fun doing market day this month! My husband was able to come with me that morning to help me with the shop, and boy did I learn a TON from him! I knew he was a great salesman, but I had never truly seen him in action (because I don’t spy on him at work like a creeper, obvi). So wowza! He taught me so many things about sales and promoting myself, etc. Maybe I will make a future post about the sales tips he taught me! But anyway, I was really blessed and grateful to have him there with me!

Overall, starting a pop-up shop has been a great learning experience for me. The shop takes an army to set up and take down though!!! So needless to say, I am very grateful for my In-Laws for being there for me and helping make that happen! This is something I have wanted to do for a very long time and I feel lucky to be given a chance on it!

Seeing your own dreams come to fruition is the most empowering feeling, it’s something I want to continually experience throughout my life and I encourage you to do so as well! That is what #becomingbohemian is all about. So go follow your dreams, lovelies!

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